Dating vs engagement
Prior to that time, marriage always involved much more input from the parents, and "trial relationships" leading up to marriage were not conducted at all.
Courtship, as discussed in more detail subsequently, seeks to emulate the Godly models described in the Bible that were conducted by God's people up until the invention of dating.
Otherwise, you need to take the perspective that it's not what you want, but what God wants.
The primary purpose of marriage is not to please you, but to serve God.
Things such as co-habitation, kissing, intimate hugging, sex and bringing up children.